I'd appreciate it if you could help me
I recently read a book called “Option B.” The author of "Option B" is a female executive at Facebook, who penned this book drawing from her experience of losing her husband.In the book, she explores resilience, or the art of bouncing back from significant setbacks in life, based on her personal experiences and research data. Here, I'd like to share some poignant extracts that resonated with me.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens. But if you keep looking longingly at the closed door, you may not notice the other door that opens for you.
-- OptionB
Negative emotions are easier to deal with if they are "labeled" (labeled). The more specific the label, the better. It is easier to process an emotion with a vague label such as "I feel alone and lonely" than with a vague label such as "I feel terrible." Putting feelings into words gives us a sense that we are "in control" of those feelings. In one study, a group of arachnophobic people were divided into three groups and asked to approach a spider. The first group was asked to think "I'm not afraid of spiders," the second group was asked to distract themselves by doing something unrelated to spiders, and the third group was asked to label their feelings about spiders. When they approached the spiders, the labeled group showed significantly lower levels of physiological arousal and were able to approach the spiders more easily. There are a few caveats, however. Immediately following a tragedy or crisis, emotions may be too raw to process, and journaling may have the opposite effect. In the immediate aftermath of a loss, writing can distract from loneliness and enhance mood, but it is unlikely to be effective in alleviating symptoms of grief or depression.
-- OptionB
Martin Seligman, a psychologist who studies how people deal with failure and setbacks, also says that the "three P's" prevent people from recovering from failure and setbacks.
What are the 3 P's?
Personalization Permanence Pervasiveness
Permanence.
So, this failure, setback, or hardship is
Not my fault.
They are not eternal.
Not everything is bad.
It is important to think that.
